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Behind Between the Glass: Writing a Romance Where Both People Are Right
Behind the scenes on Between the Glass: how journalism ethics became romantic conflict, and why 'off the record' is the most loaded phrase in the book.
Key Takeaways
- Between the Glass: Ben controls rooms with humor, Renee controls narratives. Both are less protected in private.
- The forbidden element is internal: Renee's journalism ethics are not a rule she follows because someone is watching.
- The 'off the record' device creates the only space where neither character is performing and real talk can happen.
- Banter with real stakes needs two communicators with opposed reasons: one controls the story, one uncovers it.
Between the Glass is built on performance pressure.
Ben knows how to control a room with humor. Renee knows how to control a narrative with facts. Their chemistry works because both are brilliant in public, and both are less protected in private than they look.
What Creates the Central Tension Between Ben and Renee?
Ben uses charm to manage exposure. Renee uses precision to manage risk.
They are both communicators, but they communicate for different reasons. That creates banter with real stakes. Unlike romances built on simple misunderstandings, the tension here comes from two people whose professional instincts are genuinely at odds. Ben's job requires controlling the story. Renee's job requires uncovering it.
The other layer, which took me a while to get right, is that both of them are performing. Ben performs ease. Renee performs neutrality. Neither performance is dishonest exactly; both are highly skilled people doing what skilled people do under professional scrutiny. The problem is that performing for someone who can see the seams is exhausting, and exhausted people eventually say true things.
Why Is This a Different Kind of Forbidden Romance?
Journalism ethics are not the same as most forbidden romance obstacles.
The standard forbidden setup creates a rule that the characters resist and eventually break. The rule is external: organizational policy, social expectation, a promise made to someone else. When they break it, there is a cost, usually social or reputational.
What journalism ethics do is different. The restriction is not external to Renee; it is internal. It is not a rule she follows because someone is watching. It is who she is as a journalist. Her credibility is not a resource she got from her institution. It is something she built herself, over years of doing the work correctly in environments that did not always make it easy to do the work correctly. Crossing that line does not just risk her job. It risks her sense of herself.
That is a much more interesting obstacle, because it cannot be solved by leaving the job or getting a new assignment. It follows her. And Ben, once he understands this, does not ask her to solve it. He sits with her in the impossibility of it, which is one of the more quietly devastating things he does in the book.
Performance as Armor: Ben vs. Declan
I think about the two types of armor in the first two books a lot.
Declan's control is vertical. He builds walls, maintains distance, monitors what he allows to pass through. The architecture of his defense is about restriction.
Ben's performance is horizontal. He fills every space with noise, humor, warmth, and competence so there is never a gap of silence where something real could surface. You cannot reach him through a gap that does not exist.
Both strategies work extremely well, until someone decides to stop trying to break through and simply waits.
Elena waits Declan out by doing her job so thoroughly and without adjustment that his walls have nothing to push against.
Renee does something different with Ben. She refuses to laugh at the performance. She sees it for what it is, not because she is trying to expose him, but because her job is to assess what public personas conceal. She is not immune to his charm; she finds him genuinely entertaining. But she is constitutionally incapable of mistaking the performance for the person, and that distinction is the first thing that actually unsettles him.
He is used to charm working. He is not prepared for someone who likes him and still does not believe the version he is selling.
How the "Off the Record" Device Evolved
The phrase "off the record" is standard journalism practice. Nothing romantic about it at the start.
In the early chapters, Renee uses it the way she would with any source: as a procedural marker. It means this conversation is happening but will not be published. It is a tool for extracting more honest information from people who need the cover of informality to speak freely. She has said it thousands of times.
Ben picks it up somewhere around chapter four, using it back at her. Not quite correctly, not in the way a journalist would use it, but with a specific instinct for what it means: that the words said under its protection are real words, not performance. He uses it to say something he means.
That is the first crack in the device becoming something else.
By the midpoint of the book, they have developed a mutual understanding of what "off the record" means between them specifically. It means: I am going to say something true now. I am not performing. This is the actual version of me. You can hold this, but you have to hold it carefully.
The evolution from professional tool to emotional threshold is gradual enough that neither of them could identify the exact moment it changed. But the reader can. The reader has been watching both uses accumulate, and the shift lands with a weight that only works because the purely clinical use was established so thoroughly first. This is the same architecture I wrote about in The Translation Game: the professional vocabulary has to feel functional before it can feel intimate.
The Scene That Clarifies Everything
There is a scene in the middle third of the book where Renee asks Ben about a specific comment he made in a post-game press conference. On the record, it was a nothing answer, generic goodwill toward a younger player. She wants to know what it actually meant.
He looks at her for a long moment. Then he says: "Off the record?"
She nods.
What he tells her is not complicated. He explains what was actually happening with that player, the real thing he was trying to do with the answer, why it mattered. It is not a confession. It is not vulnerable in any obvious way. But it is true, and it is the first thing he has said to her that was not at least partially shaped by audience management.
She files it. She does not print it. And for the rest of the scene, something in his posture changes: not more relaxed exactly, but differently held, like he put something down that he forgot he was carrying.
That is the scene where he stops performing for her. Not because he decided to. Because she asked a real question and waited for a real answer, and the gap opened anyway.
What Moments Define Between the Glass?
Three elements carry this book:
The press-room energy. Small shifts in tone, timing, and language reveal power dynamics quickly.
The line between "off the record" and emotional truth. That phrase becomes a relationship device, not just media jargon. It starts as a hostile professional boundary and transforms into something sacred between them.
Character growth without personality loss. Ben does not become quiet. Renee does not become vague. They become more honest versions of themselves.
"Off the record" is the phrase where two defense mechanisms finally meet something they cannot process. It is the moment where charm and skepticism both fail, and what remains is the thing neither person planned to say.
The way professional language transforms into emotional vocabulary connects this book to a pattern that runs through the entire series. I wrote about how that device works in The Translation Game.
The Renee Backstory: Why Her Skepticism Is Not a Flaw
Renee comes into this assignment carrying something specific: a story that was buried. Not her failure, not her mistake. Someone with more institutional power than her decided the story would not run, and it did not run, and she had to keep working at the outlet where that decision was made.
She left eventually. She is good enough that leaving was possible. But the experience left her with a particular relationship to professional trust: she gives it to the work, not to the people above her in the hierarchy. She does not assume good faith from institutional structures. She assumes good faith from evidence.
That is why her skepticism about Ben is not antagonism. She is not trying to catch him out or prove something about athletes or about men. She is simply applying her standard process: wait for evidence. Do not assume. Watch what the behavior tells you.
The thing that moves her on Ben is exactly that: the behavior tells her something consistent over time. The performances are real but they are not all he is. Underneath the charm is someone who is paying close attention, who is protective of people he has decided matter, and who does not ask for credit for the things he does quietly.
She files that evidence the same way she files everything else. And one day she opens the file and realizes she has been building a case for a while.
Why This Book Is Not Enemies-to-Lovers
I want to be direct about this because the misread happens in the other direction too.
Yes, there is friction in the early chapters. Real friction, not manufactured tension. Renee is on Ben's beat, asking questions his media training wants to deflect. Ben finds her presence uncomfortable in a way he is not used to being uncomfortable. The first few interactions have an edge.
But this is not sustained hostility. It is two professionals navigating a genuinely complicated dynamic: she needs access, he needs control over his narrative, and neither of them is wrong to want what they want. By the end of the third chapter, the edge has shifted into something more like wary respect. By chapter five, it is something warmer than that.
The core dynamic in this book is forbidden romance between a player and a journalist, complicated by the fact that both characters are skilled communicators who struggle to communicate honestly with each other. The enemies framing does not fit because they are never trying to harm each other. They are trying to protect themselves, which is a different thing entirely.
How Does Between the Glass Connect to the Rest of the Series?
If Book 1 is about control and care, Book 2 is about image and truth. Both belong to the same series spine: emotional courage under pressure.
Between the Glass is the second book in the Ice and Instinct series, but it works as a complete standalone. You do not need to have read Unassisted to understand Ben and Renee's story. Readers who have read Book 1 will recognize the Portland Wolves team and carry additional context into this book, but that context enriches rather than enables the reading experience.
For details on how the books connect, see the Ice and Instinct reading order guide.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is Between the Glass an enemies-to-lovers romance?
Not in the traditional sense. Ben and Renee have genuine professional friction, but the antagonism is brief (lasting only two to three chapters). The core dynamic is forbidden romance between a player and a journalist, complicated by the fact that both characters are skilled communicators who struggle to communicate honestly with each other. Readers expecting a sustained hate-to-love arc will find something different and, I think, more interesting.
Do I need to read Unassisted before Between the Glass?
No. Between the Glass is a complete standalone romance with its own fully resolved arc. Ben Kowalski appears briefly in Unassisted, and readers who have met him there will carry extra context into this book. But nothing in Between the Glass requires that prior knowledge.
How steamy is Between the Glass?
Between the Glass is rated 3 out of 5 peppers. It contains two on-page intimate scenes written in a literary style. Like Unassisted, this is not a fade-to-black romance.
What is the "off the record" device in the book?
"Off the record" starts as standard media terminology, a professional boundary between a journalist and her subject. Over the course of the book, it becomes the phrase where Ben and Renee's defenses finally fail. It transforms from a professional tool into the language of their most vulnerable moments together.
Why does Ben fall for Renee specifically?
Because she is the only person in his professional orbit who responds to the actual him rather than the performance. His humor works on everyone. His charm works on everyone. Renee finds him funny and still does not mistake the humor for a complete picture. That specificity, being seen past the thing you use to avoid being seen, is its own kind of intimacy, and he does not have a defense for it.

